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Getting Your Way the Right Way

Believe it or not, you are better off not getting your way when you are right than you are if you get your way when you are wrong. Let me explain. When you are right and you don't get your way, you're vindicated in the end at least to yourself if no one else.

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The unselfishhelp.com Life

I’ve been telling you about finding your life purpose and living your dream. I urge you to look at how you can make changes in your life that take you toward your dream, rather than making choices that conform you to the people around you. Along those lines, I had a wonderful experience under most unlikely circumstances. This weekend I had to take a trip to the Oregon coast. My 21 year old son lives eight hours away from my wife and me, not far from the town of Silverton Oregon. He called me up last Thursday morning and said he was sick. By noon he was being rolled into surgery to have his appendix taken out. It seemed like a good idea for my wife Tracy and I to make the trip to be with him for a couple of days as he recovered. The people at the hospital in Silverton were kind enough to find us a place to stay, just a few blocks from the hospital. They arranged for us to stay in a ‘bed and breakfast’ (B&B).

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What is Personal Development?

Great question and depending on who you ask you may get a different answer. This article is intended to describe as near as possible the breadth and scope of self development. Self development is a broad category with expansive topics and opinions. Thus, this article will describe the range of content that unselfishhelp.com will cover within its articles. Fundamentally, personal development is the process or act by which a person develops skills, methods, and awareness of oneself or their environment, and the ability to perform or cope with persons or situations.

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12 Step Purpose Test for Self Development

I am a firm believer that people fail at their goals, in large part, because their goals are not aligned with their purpose. Others fail because they do not fully understood their purpose and they are working toward a flawed purpose that is but a shadow of their true purpose. Test your purpose against these definitions. Thick of this list as a 12 step program to validating your purpose. The closer to the top of the list your purpose fails at meeting one of these definitions the further your 'supposed' purpose is from your true purpose. Your purpose is not a mystical cloud of pixie dust waiting for you to step into an ethereal state to comprehend, although there are those who will go there in order to understand their purpose.

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Passion and Purpose

Passion and purpose is the catalyst for our goals. They are the means to achieve our goals. If you can lock into your passion and your purpose you will be able to identify goals that are valuable. We spend too much time setting goals and trying to reach goals that are not lined up with our passion and purpose. This results in failure. We set up goals that are socially acceptable, like getting a good job at a well established company with retirement and room for advancement. We set goals that are safe, such as building that 2500 square foot home just like we always wanted. We set goals that our family thinks are wise, like getting that masters degree, marrying a college graduate who wants to have two children and settling down close to the parents. We set goals that look fine, but don't make us feel fine.

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