Confidence is understanding your skills and strengths. Confidence is understanding your potential and how far you can push yourself to achieve your goals. Confidence is not being blind to your mistakes; it is not being blind to the situation at hand; it is not be blind to the harm you cause yourself or others; it is not ignoring self knowledge; it is not refusing to admit your mistakes; confidence is not blindness.
Confidence is understanding where you are in your life with your skills and strengths and considering those in your short term goals, pushing yourself always, but never being blind. Confidence gives the ability to push on when things look like you may not succeed. Confidence does not boast. Confidence performs.
Blindness boasts of what it cannot deliver. Blindness refuses to admit its mistakes and failing, thus missing the opportunities to grow and learn. Blindness considers its own mistakes and decides someone else’s failure caused its own failure.
Do you own your own failure, or do you always find a way to blame someone else? If you always blame someone else you may not be able to recognize this problem in yourself, so this advice may fall on deaf ears. Do not be blind to your own mistakes; they are experiences that you can learn from.
Confidence is good; it is fuel for our successes; it pushes us; it gives us hope in the face of defeat. Confidence is important.
Blindness is not confidence; it holds us back; it hinders our growth; it clouds our vision; it robs us of learning; Blindness must be cured.
I urge everyone to have confidence and implore them to recognize their blindness.
Are you confident or blind? To be successful you need confidence. To mimic success for a time being blind will work, but only so long.
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Author: Jeff Harris
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Push Yourself
It is not those who limit themselves that accomplish the most in life. Push yourself. Set your ultimate goals beyond what seem possible. How many people thought it would be impossible to fly to the moon? Yet, some people decided it was not impossible.
Great achievements, such as landing on the moon, were not accomplished with just one goal of the moon. They were built upon many smaller goals that were tough, but so near. These intermediate goals were stepping stones to the greater goal. Some of these goals may not have been designed for reaching the moon, but time proved them be along the path.
Set your own goals beyond what is normal. In doing so they will open up opportunities that you currently may not see. My life purpose has been changed and shaped by the events and accomplishments of my life. What I hoped for 20 years ago is far less than what I plan for today. My vision is greater than it has ever been and my opportunities for reaching those final goals is far greater. This is not because I have driven my whole life for that single final goal, but because I have never allowed circumstances and the world to shape my goals, and ultimately each accomplishment has opened new possibilities to me, and stretched my personal development plan.
Identify the unlimited limits of your Potential
The identification of potential is often about not underestimating your potential. Never believe that you have achieved your potential, and always assume that your perceived potential is merely a shallow glimpse into deep pool. Your potential is always moving away from you and this is a good thing. Your current potential is always a step further away than you can see. The trick is never feeling as though your potential has been achieved. You can always improve your strengths and talents.
How many people fail to progress, or live their lives far beneath that they are capable of, because they have no hope for greater potential? Everyone of these people is living a lie. That lie is that they cannot do more, be more, accomplish more, or improve themselves. Do not hold yourself back.
While it is good to understand your limitations and your weakness, these are things to be managed and accounted for in your plan, they are not reasons to lose hope and give up. In fact your weakness may someday be your greatest asset. I still remember being told I could never write for a living, and yet writing is a main source of my life, my career, and my income.
Potential is ever moving away from you and this is good
So, identify your potential and know that that potential is a temporary potential. In time that potential will grow. Reassess yourself and your goals. Never assume that potential gained is completed. Your potential is merely your ability to measure what you know today. Tomorrow your potential shall be greater. Just don’t let life distract you too much.
Thankfully, our potential as humans is an ever growing and shaping vision of what we can become. Do not listen to those who speak of limiting your potential. I promise you this they are wrong.
If you are held down by someone else’s assessment of your potential, send me an e-mail at unselfishhelp@live.com. I truly believe that a short conversation will give you new hope and uncover greater potential.
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Author: Jeff Harris
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Have you identified your strengths and talents? If not check out this great article; it should help you identify them. After you have completed that task come back here and let’s get to the next step.
Now that we are all on the same page let’s talk about the next big question…. What do we do with this list now? Here are 4 steps:
- Determine how they support your life purpose.
- Establish a baseline of your skills and talents.
- Set goals for your skills and talents.
- Create a plan of action for meeting your goals for your skills and talents.
How Your Strengths and talents Support your life purpose
Like I said in the article for determining your strengths and talents, they will likely support you’re your life. This is because what you enjoy doing is what you are good at, and if you are really good at something, it is for a reason. If you are spiritual, this is a spiritual truth. If you are not spiritual, this is pragmatic. If you believe in only yourself, then believe in what you enjoy.
This step should be easy for you, if you have identified both your life purpose and your strengths and talents correctly. If your strengths and talents do not further or help you succeed or excel at your life purpose, go back and figure out where you got one or the other wrong.
Establish a baseline of your skills and talents
A baseline is a starting measurement. Figure out a quantifiable measurement for your talent or strength. If your talent is juggling, measure how many objects your can juggle and for how long. Simple example, but it works. If your talent or strength is not so easily measured you may have to be more creative. For instance if your writing is your strength or talent, you may have to measure errors per 100 words, or have someone else rate the entertainment value of your writing on a scale of 1-10. However you do it, figure your baseline.
You’ll use these baseline measurements later. Depending on the needs of your plan you may take periodic measurements of to see how your progress is on improving your strengths and talents. That is the point of the baseline giving you a way to tell if you are improving.
Set goals for your skills and talents
How good can you get? That is what you want to determine. Your goals should push your talents and strengths to their limit. You want to get the edge, find your potential. I suggest both intermediate and end goals. Intermediate will be steps along the way to your full potential.
Create a Plan for your Talents and Strengths
This plan for meeting the goals you have set for your talents and strengths will be a sub-plan of your larger life purpose plan. Your life plan, which is the plan you will follow to meet your life purpose, shall contain your baseline and goals for your talents and strengths, and explain how they support your life purpose. It’s all part of one big happy plan!
Your talents and strengths plan will have activities that you will do to improve your talents and strengths. Here are some examples:
- Training for your talents and strengths
- Practice – hours per week, day, etc.
- Research and reference material
- Support groups – like minded people supporting one another
- Purchase equipment needed to be better
I am sure you can think of other items to add to your plan. And with all plans, remember that the plan should be updated as new ideas and progress is made. Plans are fluid and should change as you make progress and life takes you in different directions.
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5 Steps for Identifying Your Strengths and Talents
Part of personal development is taking full advantage of your strengths and talents, as discussed in my feature article what is self development. What do you do well and how can you leverage those things to achieve your goals and eventual life purpose? Strengths and talents define us as individuals. Knowing what these are and building them into your personal development plan is critical. Your plan is unique for many reasons and one of them is that your plan must take full advantage of what you are good at doing. This is why two people do not achieve the same goals in the same way.
Look at these two statements and chose the one that best describes yourself:
a) The better I am at something the more I enjoy doing it?
b) The more I enjoy doing something the better I am at doing it.
If you chose ‘a’ then you are likely more motivated by success. Conversely, if you chose ‘b’ you are likely motivated more by happiness. Now, just because you one or the other does not mean that you do not like being happy or successful, it just indicates a preference. You may also find that as your travel through life these things change.
First, make your lists
So, with that information in mind make two lists. Do not spend more than 15 minutes on each list. Organize each list in order of priority to you. Here are the two lists you will create:
a) A list of those things that you do really well.
b) A list of those things that you enjoy doing.
Here are some ideas to help you fill out your list:
• interpersonal skills – how you deal with others
• verbal, written, and communication skills
• dexterous skills – using your hands
• thinking skills – analysis, problem solving, etc
• meticulous and tedious skills
• planning
• spur of the moment or crisis skills
• do you require a lot of time to think or do you typically wing it? How is that working for you
• what would others say you do well?
• What do people count on your for?
• If you could do anything in life what would it be?
Second, combine the lists
Compare the two lists and see how they differ. Was one list easier to develop than the other? Combine the lists and eliminate the duplicates.
Third, identify your top strengths or talents
Pick the top five or six items off the list and note them in your journal. Each day for a week review your daily activities and make a note of how often you use your top items.
Fourth, record and review your week
At the end of the week review the activities. You want to see how often you used your top five or six strengths or talents. If you did not use one or two of them, you need to ask yourself why. Here are some typical reasons why some of your top five or six talents or strengths are not being used:
• Your life at home and work is not lined up with your strengths. Should you make changes to your life like a carrier change?
• Maybe you have the wrong items on the top of the list. Review your list.
• Perhaps it was just an abnormal week. Go for another week and see if the results change.
Fifth, make necessary adjustments
Armed with this new information you can make adjustments. You will do one of three things:
1. Adjust your list,
2. Adjust your job, or
3. Live with the bitter realization that you are not living your life to take advantage of your best strengths and skills. Sounds dreary to me.
Your life purpose is typically tied up with your talents and skills, those that you love to do and those that you are great at. So, if you want to be as successful as possible, and as happy as possible, then you need to build upon your talents and strengths. You need to make them stronger. You need to exercise them often.
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In order to move forward in life, you have to properly categorize the past. We have all made mistakes. We have all been wronged. Some of us have been wronged very badly. We have been hurt physically, emotionally, and mentally. The pain that we may have can be intense. Regardless, and not to be insensitive, we must put the past to use in a positive way or discard it if we are to move forward.
We want to achieve all that we can. We want to become the best person possible in order to achieve our dreams and reach that life purpose. The bottom line is, either your past can be an asset or a milestone tied about your neck dragging you down. Renewing your identity is part of a personal development plan.
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